Having read 3 books about it and starting a 4th one soon it is safe to say that I am fascinated by the Law of Attraction. So what is it? The Law of Attraction is a guide to a particular way of thinking or a universal rule that says that whatever you focus your attention on is also something that you are consciously or unconsciously attracting onto yourself. Many people have tapped into this knowledge to achieve great success and have openly spoken about it's effect and the value they have gained from it. These people include Will Smith, Denzel Washington, Conor McGregor, Jim Carey, Oprah Winfrey, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Kanye West, Lady GaGa, and many more. They are all great examples of what can be achieved if you truly believe in yourself and begin utilising the Law of Attraction consciously and with purpose.
Whatever we focus on is what we are going to get. Say you want to lose some weight for example. You start going to the gym 2 times a week, but maintain your old diet. You may lose some weight, but the odds are that you will not see any significant results in the first couple of weeks. You begin to doubt your efforts. A friend recommends a diet that you should try. For 2 weeks you force yourself to only eat salads and vegetable juices. You begin to see real results! However, soon enough you just can't stomach another raw vegetables and end up returning to your old diet, gaining all the weight you lost back. There are 2 ways that you can deal with the situation and they both involve asking yourself questions. The first way is to ask yourself questions like why am I never able to lose weight. This is a way of focusing on where you are now and not on where you want to be. Your brain is going to come up with answers regardless of whether or not their true. You might say to yourself I don't have enough will power, I love food too much, I don't have enough time to go to the gym, I'm at a genetic disadvantage, and so on. If instead you focus on asking yourself questions like what can I learn from this, your brain is also going to come up with answers. You might say I need to design my own balanced diet that I can stick to and that won't overwhelm me, there is no such thing as a quick fix, or I need to figure out how to make time to go to the gym. Which angle of focusing on the same thing is going to be more productive? By focusing on where you want to go you also focus your efforts on getting there, instead of spending time thinking about how you aren't yet there and psyching yourself out.
If you are a negative person, you will attract more negative experiences because that is the way you will generally perceive them. If you are kind and caring to others then you will also experience more kindness in return. If you are constantly focusing on the fact that your business isn't growing instead of how you can improve your efforts, then your business will likely remain where it is. If your dream is to become a world famous actress but spend your time thinking about where you are now and how far away your dream is, then you will struggle to make progress.
The reason I find the Law of Attraction so appealing is that it works with things that aren't yet true. In essence you have the ability to think outcomes into existence. If the dreaming actress focused on how it would feel to be an Oscar winning actress, then she would eventually find her way to becoming that. It is not about how you will get to where you want to be. The most important thing is that you know Why you want to get there. If you have a strong enough Why, then you will find the How, and the best way to find a strong Why is to vividly imagine already having what you are seeking. Don't stop at I want to own a Lamborghini. Keep going. Imagine sitting in the new leather seats, feel your hands grip the steering wheel. What does it smell like? What do you hear when you turn on the engine. Where are you going to drive it? Where is it going to take you? Who is sitting next to you? How does in make you feel? Create this vivid picture in your mind and revisit it until it becomes a reality. If you can put yourself in a state where you feel like you already have what it is you want, then nothing can stop you from achieving it.
The first time I can distinctly remember using the Law of Attraction, I wasn't yet aware of the term. It was nearly 5 years ago when I had a pretty serious accident while skiing. I misjudged the speed and angle at which I approached a 2 meter tall snow ramp where I had the intention of completing a 360 jump. I over shot the smooth downhill landing area, ending up where it was flat and icy. I had done a 360 but my skis were pointing strait into the sky when I hit the ice. I landed on my back. I was helicoptered off the mountain and taken to the nearest hospital where they discovered that I had fractured two of my vertebrates and slipped two disks. While that sounds really serious, I was able to walk by wearing a supportive back brace. I was told that I would be unable to do any physical activity for 3-4 months and after that only light activity. More than the injury itself I was devastated because it meant that I had a slim chance of being able to compete in that years International Schools Sports Tournament for Track & Field which was something that I was very passionate about. I even had hopes of beating the school's more than 40 year old record for the 400m sprint.
After accepting the fact that I would be unable to begin training for the competition along with my teammates, yet alone maintain any form of exercise routine for at least 3 months and that even then I would have to start at a significantly lower level than I had ever been at before, I decided to start visualising beating the record. I didn't know how I was going to do it only that I wanted to. This lead me to feel so strongly that it was possible even though for anyone looking in it looked unlikely. It meant that I kept on looking for ways that I could speed up my recovery. I placed more attention on what I was eating to make sure it was good for my body, I prepared workouts that I would do once I was able to, and I kept going to practise just so that I could watch my friends and future competition training. This gave me an incredible drive that I was able to fully unleash once my back had healed.
As soon as I felt that I could start exercising again, I began light strength training from home because I couldn't yet run. I was smart about not pushing myself too hard straight away to avoid re-injury. This was probably the hardest part. After a spring break spent doing push-ups, dips, planks, squats, and sit-ups, I returned to the track team with a little under 2 months to get me ready for the race. My first practise 400m race I ran in 1:05 minutes which took everything I had. It was very far from the 51.4 second school record and my previous personal best of 54 seconds. I didn't want to focus on the intimidating amount of improvement I needed to make, but instead kept imagining vividly what it would feel like to win the championship and break the school record ahead of my training partner. I imagined warming up for the race, setting my blocks with the perfect angle, running at a pace that I was not yet capable of, and leaning in across the finish line for the win.
Believing so strongly that I was capable of it lead me to train even harder. I would wake up early and do hill sprints before school and then go to the team practises in the afternoon which wasn't attended by many people from my grade as we had our final exams coming up. I had made my training as important as my studying. At practise I would push myself to the point that I had build up so much lactic acid in my legs that I was sick a few times. I didn't care what other people thought of me or what I was doing and didn't stop pushing myself. The results started to show as my time slowly started to get better. For every race I ran my time decreased, and every time it made it that much more clear that I was making my vision into a reality.
When it came to the championship race I felt like I had done everything I possibly could have to prepare. I made it to the final, but was beaten by someone who I hadn't seen at any of the other races that year. I finished in second place with a time of 51.6, 2 tenths of a second from the school record. I thought I would be devastated for not having reached my goal, but I knew that I had given it everything I had. Or so I thought.
The 4x400m relay was still to take place the following day and I was anchoring the race. The guy who had beaten me in the open had injured himself in another race and wasn't competing in the relay. This was my last and final chance. After the first 3 legs I received the baton in 4th place with around 20 meters to the lead runner. We are the team in yellow. I receive the baton after 2:35. This is what happened.
I ran the race that I had visualised so many times, overtaking 3 runners, and crossing the line in first place with a split time of 50.5. Our team broke the school record for the 4x400m. Even though I didn't get the record for the open 400, I still did what I set out to do which was to cross the finish line in first place. You shouldn't be afraid to make goals that may seem unrealistic at the time. Lying on the ice on the mountain, afraid to move my back while the helicopter landed, I certainly didn't believe that I would be able to compete in the race. However, setting high goals can bring you to places you never imagined you would be. Even if you don't actually reach your goal you will still have achieved something to be proud of. Without having spent so much time visualising my dream race, I would never have begun to believe that it was even possible, and I wouldn't have given as much effort and trained as hard as I did. I found a way to enjoy the process of reaching my goal by constantly focusing on the fact that everything I did was making me stronger, faster, and more determined than I was the day before. "Most people fail in life not because they aim too high and miss, but because they aim too low and hit". - Les Brown
Today I have made a box that I call my 'creation box' that I use to keep all of my goals and ambitions in. I write on little slips of paper things I want to accomplish, experience, and contribute. Among other things, I want to summit mount Kilimanjaro, complete an ironman race, and make the best film of all time. I don't know how I am going to achieve these things, but have told myself that whatever I write down and put in the box will become a reality. I spend time each week going through my goals and vividly imagine them as already being true. It may take a month, a year, or even my whole life for them to actually happen, but writing them down and putting them in the box starts the process of creating that reality for myself because I make myself feel so certain that they will. We are what we think we are, so why not consider ourselves to be better than anyone could ever imagine. Attract the reality you desire.
If you want to read more about The Law of Attraction I highly recommend the following books:
Awaken the Giant Within - Tony Robbins
The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle
The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho
Ask and it is Given - Jerry and Esther Hicks
The Secret - Rhonda Byrne
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